Reasons to Stop Sleeping On BARRY and Start Watching

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Watch Barry.
Let me say that again: Watch the HBO show BARRY.

 

We doubt you just went ahead and did that, so let us put it this way. Barry is about Barry Berkman, a former marine-turned-assassin that stumbles into an LA acting class after following a target there and, wouldn’t ya know, the boy loves it!
If that isn’t enough to pique your interest, we got some reasons why you should watch and… sorry in advance if we get too passionate.

[This post is spoiler-free! Be careful going onto YouTube to watch videos because a lot a very spoilery but we’ve added some videos below for your curiosity]

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CoVid Check-in

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What a year, huh? We’re only halfway but I feel like I’ve lived two lifetimes since Christmas. Six months ago my dad was getting discharged from hospital and I was getting ready to look after him here!

 

In case you don’t know, I live in Australia (south-east Queensland) and we are in a weird time with COVID. We’re now getting into the colder part of our winter and different states are in different stages of lockdown, with Victoria about to go into full lockdown yet again in around 24+ hours. In New South Wales (the state between QLD and Vic) it’s, for the most part, the close to ‘back to normal’ but still with restrictions (as of writing 8 new cases emerged overnight) and here in QLD we’re coming up to phase 3 of restrictions (with no new cases). I should add that it’s easier to travel into NSW with its active cases than into QLD and since I live near the border, that’s the main difference I’ve found firsthand.

While this does ease a lot of the anxiety with going out in public it still makes me hesitant, and I’m not alone. Our conservative government here has been pressuring all states and territories here to open and get back to work and school for months now. even with evidence that the lump payment people got from Centrelink (if they were ‘eligible’)  our absolute scab of a prime minister has voiced that people don’t want to go back to work because they’re getting money from the government. I should let you know that this government just did this too.
I say this because since the initial outbreak here, we’ve had weird, pseudo, contradictory rules here that have constantly made people confused. Between the phrase “social distancing” and being able to do one thing then the PM confirming it yet letting people -himself included- go to Hillsong conferences. Not one mask there, of course.
These contradictions and an Australian philosophy of “she be right, mate” [x]made a lot of people, especially in the autumn-but-still-summery-climate take a very relaxed attitude. This is a city where even McDonald’s has to remind patrons “no shirt, no thongs/shoes, no service” if they come rolling in from the beach. Honestly, the second – the SECOND – we went from the full phase one restriction and went into phase three, two of my neighbours had parties again, I had people wanting to come over, knowing very well I’m immunocompromised, in public no one was using hand sanitiser going into grocery stores or cleaning their carts. For a lot of people, it was already back to normal!

I don’t have to tell you that it wasn’t for me. Look, during this outbreak I’ve been very lucky. I don’t have a job but I do get a government payment so I can’t survive. I’m very much a homebody and a lot of the things I’m trying to achieve are through doing work here at home. This change to being ‘housebound’ didn’t change my day-to-day living. However, I wasn’t eligible for grocery delivery, I still had to get meds (thankfully our chemists here had strict protocols for stepping foot inside). I still had to go out with people who found all of it really annoying and convenient. For me, it was incredibly stressful and the idea that people found it disrupting to get their 10 packs of toilet paper or to get coffee and drinks with their mates was so. goddamn. infuriating.

As I said above, we’re officially in winter now and August is our coldest month. With phase three in effect in a few days and borders starting to open (except Vic) it’s a nervous time for a lot of people, including me. The pressure for things to be normal again and a relaxed/careless atmosphere almost guarantees a second wave.
I can’t begin to imagine how you guys in the US are doing, for you guys doing the right thing I commend you so much. You have all my support and thoughts.

For now my life is still the same and I’m hoping online acting classes will start up again soon so I can do that. My family and I (along with some of my friends) are all moving to different places in the next few months so this is going to be an interesting rest of the year that’s for sure!

Sorry if you didn’t want to read a half-political, half-rant post, however, you can’t separate COVID and politics as what we can and can’t do is dictated by the leader/party of your country.

 

 

We’re also in a recession and while you might get an image of the 2008 financial crisis, with a pandemic happening we’re not really seeing the physical (or financial effects) of it yet. Actually, I think most Australians have forgotten we’re in one – I almost did right now.

 

 

Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self

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Freshly-turned 17 me.

 

It’s a question everyone has pondered or been asked at some point; if you could go back, what would you tell your teenage self? A lot of people think asking this question doesn’t help because what’s done is done; you can’t change the past and regret can hurt and waste your present. Other people think it’s good to recognise how far you’ve come and if you’re holding onto the way you used to be.

While I think both are right, I do believe looking back not only shows how much you changed and gives pause to reflection but in a public setting like I’m typing to you know let’s others (especially younger people) think about the person they are now. Sometimes looking back also gives us a chance (or on the path) to make peace with the person and decisions we made and cut ourselves some slack now in the present.
Here are some of the points I wish I could tell myself when I was younger, followed some things I’d tell my younger self I’m doing right.

 

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Black Lives Matter and the Trauma of Police Brutality and Protesting (and me just getting it all out)

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John Boyega at Black Lives Matter protests in London. Photo by Justin Setterfield.

 

The last year of watching the news has been a new sort of serious struggle, from the Hong Kong protests last year, the fires here in Aus, COVID, and now the rightful protesting against police brutality against black people.
I was going to infodump/rant/express everything all in one post but I feel like talking about one thing right now is best.

 

More than ever before, I’ve been thinking about the trauma people of colour, especially black people, endure at the hands of authority figures, namely police officers; the people who are supposed to protect and serve the community they reside in. I mean, what I’m saying here isn’t anything new, it’s well established in black communities not just in the US, but here too in Australia and countless other countries where native people have been invaded, abused, sold, paraded as jokes, animals/barbarians while their cultures have been used as accessories. The historical equivalent of ‘chewed up and spat out’.

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Hey all!

Just wanted to let you know I’ve added more tags to the Autism Acceptance Month posts so it’s easier to find particular things, e.g. stimming, ableism, etc.
Also made a Facebook page! I know, Facebook is terrible and full of garbage advise and misinformation but I thought plenty of people still use it and if I could spread some news, pieces, anything that is at least one of the more reliable blogs to go to.
I’m also going to make a Tumblr because there’s still some great chronic illness and autistic content on there (and look, man, there’s some good, spicy memes), but I’m debating between making a spankin’ new account vs making a secondary account from one I have on there.

Anyway I hope you’re staying safe and finding something that keeps you sane!

30 Days of Autism Acceptance 2020: Day 28-30!

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April 28 doesn’t apply to me so I’m skipping it

 

April 29

This question seems pretty obvious, but to answer:

Acceptance is important because everyone wants acceptance for who they are. I do, you do, everyone. Acceptance means one is fine the way they are and making peace with it.
If I’ve made peace with who I am, others should be willing to accept that, and when other people accept that, it means we’ve achieved understanding and respect.

 

April 30

The month of Acceptance might be over, and it might have been glossed over this year because of other circumstances happening right now, but awareness of what autism is for individuals and the community as well as the acceptance within ourselves and the community is more important than ever.

You are not alone.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Take a deep breath and hyper-fixate for a bit. Play with a hair tie. Eat a slice of cheese. You’re doing great.

 

 

Thank you so much for staying with me through Autism Acceptance Month! I will be away for a few days as I tend to other things and should be back soon talking about something! Or nothing.. who knows?

30 Days of Autism Acceptance 2020: Day 26 & 27

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April 26

 

Oh man there’s probably a scrolls worth but let’s break it down to some:

  • Our brains shutdown and just freeze where thoughts and words are all over the place and don’t work together, so verbal assistance can really help.
    e.g., I have overloaded my brain so much stuff and now the neighbour is playing EDM, and you’ve just asked if I want a ham and cheese sandwich- with mustard, maybe?- for lunch. I won’t even grasp what you’re saying and if I like mustard on my sandwiches, so maybe say “I’ll take care of it, I’ll make one just in case and bring the mustard to you” or just say the first part and show up with the goods. It’s a very simple example that might seem to carry a simple question and answer, but too many things happen, so help make it simple.
  • Ask if we enjoy working in a group or going into a situation with more people and don’t be offended by the answer.
  • Forgive us for not replying to emails or texts ASAP or at all. You’re not hated or ignored, it’s.. just a lot to keep up with.
  • Don’t dismiss what you think is “laziness” for just that.
  • Let us have an outlet or way to stim if we have one. Also maybe don’t draw too much attention to it (again, depends on the person, but I don’t like it pointed out to me).
  • Assume we’re competent, because most of us are.
  • Be quiet. Just… just shut up a little.
  • Smile at us! It’s okay! We’ll smile back, think we’re smiling back but it doesn’t get to our face, or smiling on the inside.
  • Like you, we have ‘on’ days and ‘off’ days, but unlike you we might be a “normal” talking person that suddenly can’t speak. Note that it happens, nothing doesn’t need to be wrong for it to happen and continue everything as normal.
  • Don’t coddle us, unless we want some few minutes of coddling.
  • Genuinely offering to do something big or small says to us that you genuinely care, you understand what might be an issue and have done something to help, and we always remember.
  • Don’t attempt to cure us.
  • Don’t treat us as a tragedy.
  • Treat us like human beings. Sounds obvious and anti-climactic, but there’s a reason we keep saying it.

 

Day 27

I’ve already talked about this one before so I’ll link to it.

30 Days of Autism Acceptance 2020: Day 23-25

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April 23

I don’t know how to answer this? I’ll get back to you!…….Maybe…

 

April 24

I have started finding my autistic community online although I haven’t been actively involved yet, I have found that so important, actually, I’d say even valuable. I commend how they effectively communicate and just get it. It feels so validating and non-judgemental, they just get that autism is a spectrum and a lot of people feel the same things, others don’t. Some people do one thing, others do something else.

 

April 25

From what I know I am the only one in my family, however, I suspect two have a few autistic traits. I’ve known only one person that has been diagnosed and she was 13 and could get a diagnosis.
I did wish I knew more in my everyday life. There are people online I know or come into contact with but sometimes seeing another autistic person “in the flesh” opens up a new way of communicating- and I think it helps family and friends see the similarities and also the spectrum of autism.

 

 

Today is ANZAC day here in Australia and a day of Remembrance. It’s especially in my family as my great-great uncle, Harold “Pompey” Elliott, served in the First World War. While he did come back home, a few years afterward he would take his own life after suffering from depression and PTSD. While something I very much want to talk about in more depth on here, I will leave it for another day.